Oh wow! You are really going to enjoy this date. I couldn’t control my laughter. I’m pretty sure that someone at IJL must hate my friend. I guess the meeting with the local rep didn’t go as well as she though! SMH…….
Her date was supposed to happen on Friday at 6:30 pm. It really put a damper on her Friday plans because it was right around dinner time, but what the heck. She’s bored. On Thursday, her IJL rep called and said the gentleman had to cancel and reschedule for 5:30 pm on Saturday. That was fine for her. Better time. Early. Didn’t disrupt her evening plans… OH the date! I almost forgot about the call from the staff at IJL.
She was told that he was 39 and had an advanced degree. He enjoyed sports and the outdoors. He was athletic and very outgoing. That was basically the explanation in a nut shell…
Well…she was supposed to go to restaurant A on Friday and they changed the restaurant to a different one on Saturday. My friend couldn’t remember if there had been a change and she got to restaurant A early on Saturday to watch some of the UVA game at the bar. Liquid courage. For the life of her, she couldn’t find the e-mail from her IJL rep to confirm the location of the date and she was…65% sure it was at the same place. Something in the back of her mind was nagging her though that she was in the wrong location. As it got closer to 5:30, apparently a woman approached my buddy at the bar. It was her first time drinking in 8 weeks. Of COURSE! My friend is a fairly approachable person. She proceeded to get this woman’s life story…who she dated for the past 7 years. Kids. How old she was. Hobbies. Who she had a crush on. ::::sigh:::: Please stop talking. She wrote her name down on a napkin and gave it to my friend so they could “hang out”. Whaaaat!? She wont remember the conversation anyway. When she saddled up to the bar at 5:20, she ordered a double shot of vodka. She’s not remembering ANYthing. The entire time she was talking, my friend was trying to find the e-mail and the phone coverage wasn’t allowing all the e-mails to populate. Any…minute…it would come through.
At about 5:40, it DID! She was in the WRONG place. She called the restaurant where her date was and profusely apologized. She was on her way. The restaurant wasn’t close either… Ugh. She got to the other restaurant about 30 minutes late. She TOO is blonde. We have our moments. As she was walking up to the restaurant, a very…large…and kind looking man waved at her. Oh no. That can’t be him…can it?
She goes in to the hostess stand and they take her outside to her table. The gentleman looked like he could be her father. 39? Really? He must have weighed about…300 lbs. Someone at IJL DOES hate her! It isn’t in her nature to be mean, so she stayed.
When she told her IJL rep she was interested in men that were athletic and enjoyed playing sports, she MUST have gotten confused because her date can’t run, however, he does COACH his two sons in soccer (that is why he had to cancel their date on Friday…soccer practice). Oh…yeah. Coaching and playing are different. Maybe that’s a conversation she needs to have with her rep before date #3.
In his defense, the conversation was a LOT better. He was easy to talk to. They had nothing in common but he was much more personable. He met his first wife on IJL. They were currently separated. He had two smaller children… He was a nice guy.
Rule of thumb men. IF you go on a date with someone, do NOT ask them if you can call them the next day. They will tell all their girlfriends and laugh at you. I’m just putting that out there and YES…that happened. My friend thought this was going to be something FUN…I could blog about it on the site…she’d meet some cool people… It’s not happening. The first two dates have been torture.
Needless to say, when she got home, she gave her IJL rep an earful. Apparently she went out to get some drinks with a friend after the date and they decided that they need to make tokens that say an assortment of things that range from: I’m just not that into you…I love myself more…Here’s a $20 for your troubles. HAHAHA There were a LOT more and it got pretty hilarious.
What would you do if you were on a date and someone walked up to the table…assessed the situation…and threw down a token with some saying on it? They were going to put a hashtag on the back. #gameover The things you come up with over drinks…
Date one and two were a total bust. She told her rep that if date three isn’t attractive per what she specifically told her, she is JUST leaving. She isn’t going to say a word. She’s going to walk away and not waste anymore of her or HIS time. She wanted to throw that out there because she’s going to hear it from the other side.
When does dating become more of a job than something that’s enjoyable? This is sounding like a bit of a commitment to me! I enjoy my freedom and I’m SO glad that I’m not “looking” to date anyone. Life is much better that way and I love my space.
Enjoy the day and we’ll see what happens with date #3!
Enjoy this dating quote I found:
“If he’s not calling you, it’s because you are not on his mind. If he creates expectations for you, and then doesn’t follow through on little things, he will do same for big things. Be aware of this and realize that he’s okay with disappointing you. Don’t be with someone who doesn’t do what they say they’re going to do. If he’s choosing not to make a simple effort that would put you at ease and bring harmony to a recurring fight, then he doesn’t respect your feelings and needs. “Busy” is another word for “asshole.” “Asshole” is another word for the guy you’re dating. You deserve a fcking phone call.”
― Greg Behrendt